It’s comforting to cling to the familiar, the things we’ve always known. For those of us who grew up in the public school system, textbooks, worksheets, lectures, and seatwork were the bulwark of education. We tend to believe that if we don’t use those things in our homeschools, our kids will be left with gaps in their learning, unable to get into college or live in the real world.
But just like Linus’s blanket, none of those will give us the power to reach our true educational goals, though they may be steps in the process.
If you are a Peanuts fan, you’ve probably seen A Charlie Brown Christmas. Linus, carrying his blanket, walks onto the stage to recite the Christmas story.
It’s as if in that moment he embraces the idea that the good news he is sharing on stage means he doesn’t have to be afraid. Jesus will be with him.
Dear Mom, the same is true for you. As a Christian homeschooling mom you have everything you need in order to do that which God has called you to do. You are a mom. You are a teacher. They are truly one and the same, and you can trust that you are not alone. The very One who uniquely designed your children is available—go to Him, seek His Word, and study your children, the ones He created and uniquely designed.
When we learn to trust that God designed our children to learn, then we will have the courage to trust the process, too. In our results-driven world we forget that the learning happens through the process.
Does the Bible have anything to say about teaching our children? Maybe not in the academic sense of school subjects, but it is definitely not silent on the topic.
Teaching should be a natural, daily part of life.
Hear, O Israel: The LORD our God, the LORD is one. You shall love the LORD your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your might. And these words that I command you today shall be on your heart. You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, and when you walk by the way, and when you lie down, and when you rise. You shall bind them as a sign on your hand, and they shall be as frontlets between your eyes. You shall write them on the doorposts of your house and on your gates. (Deuteronomy 6:4-9, emphasis added)
Of course, contextually this is how God instructed the Israelites to pass His laws down to their children for the generations to come. Obviously, they didn’t have the Bible to study on their own at this point. But I believe there is a timeless principle here that is just as applicable to us today.
The Israelites were to pass their faith along to their children as they went about their lives, as a part of their daily routines.
It is true for passing down our faith. I believe it is also true for educating the whole child—heart, mind, and soul.
Each Child is Uniquely Designed.
Consider Proverbs 22:6, “Train up a child in the way that he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it.”
Train means to train up, or dedicate; it can literally be translated “according to his way.” Way denotes a road, journey, direction, or manner. I think the Amplified Bible puts this idea together well: Train up a child in the way he should go [and in keeping with his individual gift or bent], and when he is old he will not depart from it.
Our teaching methods should not frustrate and anger our children.
To understand this, let’s consider a couple of definitions:
Bring them up—to nourish up to maturity, to nourish; to nurture, bring up.
Discipline—the whole training and education of children (which relates to the cultivation of mind and morals and employs for this purpose now commands and admonitions, now reproof and punishment).
I love the word nurture that is used in this definition. Nurturing implies intentional care and encouragement as we raise them to become mature adults. I believe it connotes a gentleness in how we do it.
When we discipline our children, we train and educate them. Once again we see the idea that we are our children’s primary teachers. Commands, admonitions, reproof, and punishment are all a part of that process—in the context of a nurturing, loving relationship. Just as the Father does with each of us.
The root of discipline is disciple. Disciple simply means learner. Jesus’s disciples followed him in order to learn from him. If we look at how he taught them, we have insight in how we can teach our children. He walked and talked, trained and sent out, and loved them well.
Your children are unique, and there is no one-size-fits-all type of education. Your kids are designed to learn. And you know them better than anyone else. More importantly, you have access to the One who created them.
God chose you to be the mother and teacher of your children. He didn’t make a mistake. He knew exactly what they needed—and who they needed. He equips you to do that which He has called you to do, if you’ll just follow his example.
You really don’t need it.
ay Chance homeschooled her children for fifteen years. While teaching them, she discovered a passion for writing and developing curriculum resources. She loves sharing natural learning methods and creative lesson ideas with other homeschooling parents. Kay is the co-executive editor of Homeschooling Today magazine and the author of the older extensions for the Trail Guide to Learning series. She makes her home in Texas with her husband Brian.