


ad, this article is for you. You play a vital role in homeschooling your children. You may not teach a course, pick up a book, or map out a lesson plan, but your role is crucial to the success of your homeschool and the well-being of your wife and children.
I talk to homeschool moms all the time who, with tears in their eyes and strain in their voices, say, “My husband thinks I’m lazy… that we don’t cover enough… or he expects so much.”
The sad thing is sometimes I do or say those very things too. I don’t mean to and know I’m wrong, but I was thinking maybe you fall into the same patterns of discouragement.
To set us both straight, I thought I’d share the five things we do to set up our wife for failure and discouragement:
Don’t use their clock as your clock. Your wife can start late and finish early. She doesn’t have to get in six hours of school just because the public school does. Have you taken a look at how well they use their time? I can remember thinking as a kid in third grade, “This is a waste of time. They could distill all the learning we do into about fifteen minutes of the day and let us go home early.”
Don’t use their methods… which involve boring textbooks, long lessons, and pointless repetition and homework. We’re homeschoolers; we can watch videos, read good books, skip stuff we think is a waste of time, and do it all outside if we want.
Don’t use their standards. They teach to the masses and expect the masses to all be equal. Homeschoolers teach the individual and expect different results… and rejoice in the differences. So that means some of your kids will read early and some will read late. Some will be good at math and others won’t. Some will write up a storm and others will make other kinds of storms. And that’s okay.
Your wife can’t do it all. So since she teaches your children, she may have to let the house go, forgo fancy meals, not be the romantic vixen you‘d like, and let other things slide as well. Cut her some slack… or pick up the slack, but don’t expect her to be Superwoman.
In short, do some of the things around the home so she doesn’t have to and so she can give her energy to homeschooling. You certainly didn’t think she could do it all AND homeschool your children, did you?
Relationships are what matter. Your children will be better friends with you and each other because they were homeschooled. I see it now as my children are older and have started families of their own. They want to be with us and each other… because home is the best place for kids, and we as parents are the best teachers for them.
Also, you can relax, because God is going to help your kids become exactly who they’re supposed to be. He can be trusted. After all, He entrusted you and your wife to teach your children everything they need to be successful in life. That means He knew you and your wife were capable.
